1) Breastfeeding & Pumping
While I mainly pump for the most part, I am putting her to breast and I won't lie this one surprises me. I was considering pumping, actually putting her to breast was not my cup of tea. Mind you I am still not okay with putting her to breast. It is awkward to say the least in large part because she is small and I am very big chested woman. I did it because it just seemed to work out for me and it was honestly best for her.
Now according to most who breastfeed it is a crime to do formula if breastfeeding is possible. I am not one of those people, because I understand that it just isn't always for a person. It wasn't for me but when you find out all the problems your child will face and how out of your hands it will be, you need some control. You need something that you can do for your child and only you can do. This is it for me.
Now I have way to much and am looking into milk sharing. :)
2) Making my own baby food
This is something I wanted to do for as long as I can remember. Don't ask me why I just did. I like it and am hoping starting in March I can take it to the next level. I am doing this for my Aaliyah, because I want to and can.
A lot of people keep saying to Baby Led Weaning that may work great for some kids but considering Aaliyah's delays and our concerns we don't feel it is right for us. Maybe with the next child we will consider it.
3) Cloth Diapers
Okay so this one is a BIG thing I wanted to do when I first found out I was pregnant. Than at 8wks I find out twins so I put it on a back burner. Than with everything that went down, I kind of forgot. I joined a co-op and they ran one for them . This go around, I have it and you know what I can and will do it.
4) Stay at Home Mom
Well this one is something I have wanted to do but didn't think I would. We talked a lot about it. Weighed the pros and cons. For our family, for our daughter we feel me being home is best. It isn't for everyone and there may be some sacrifices but it works for us in this moment.
1, 2, and 3 are all very cost effective when you look at 4! So works for us on another level.
Now here is my two cents for what it is worth. You have to look at what works for you and your family! No one knows the inner workings of your family! You can tell someone what the benefits our to your choices if they do not feel they are right for them don't make them feel guilty.
Making your own baby food and cloth diapers. I really don't feel there is an argument there. Mind you I don't know I am new to all this!
Don't bash the mom who chooses to formula feed because she doesn't want to breast feed. Not that she can't but doesn't want to. It is her CHOICE, same as it is yours to breastfeed. For all you know there is a reason behind it that she doesn't feel okay with discussing.
Stay at home mom... Now there is a tricky one and honestly I again say do what works best for you! Don't judge the woman that chooses to work, or the woman who chooses to stay home. Everyone seems okay if the woman has no choice but to work or to stay home. Now choose to do one or the other and people have a lot to stay. SHUT UP! Live your life and do what works for you and your family because at the end of the day does anything else matter?
You can advocate for something and not insult a person for not seeing or doing things your way. Your way is not the only way, it is not the only way. I hate when some mothers make other mothers feel less of a mother because they don't make the same choices.
This is from Lessons Learned In Life on Facebook
Just added this because someone shared it and it fits with this blog!
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